Wait - the women with high self esteem are more likely to fall into a relationship?

HEY!

I always thought of those too things being more likely for women with low self-esteem. In otherwords, the relationship provides the security and constant source of validation that they need -- or they are so insecure that they can't find a relationship and they end up compensating with cats.

I suppose I have a bias here -- that people who seek relationships typically do so for the stability and validation. I usually think of relationship oriented people as having lower self-esteems.

I think I understand what tyrven means by this, in that some people with low self esteems fall into relationships because of being codependant, but by no means do i think it's absolute.

There are a lot of types of relationships out there and by no means do they need to be one sided or dependant.

Not to be confused with the statement "People in relationships have low self esteems"; that obviously doesn't make any sense. I'm talking about people who need to be in a relationship or define themselves by their relationship.

This article had nothing to do with high self esteem.

you misspelled "vanity"

i guess i just associate high self-esteem with intelligence and accomplishments rather than looks

i dunno, my friends are all too attractive for me to judge.

Yea, it's two sides of the same coin. Long term happiness may be more attainable if you define your self-worth on what you do instead of what you look like (or more specifically how others see you), but in this world of fast food and fast cars, who wants to worry about long term?

By the way, you were so right regarding Josie and the Pussycats.